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The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids

The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids provides children (and adults) with twenty different tools to help them to be assertive – twenty different things you can say or do to help you stand up for yourself!

These tools are practical, realistic and successful. They can be used in a variety of settings and they apply to all ages. Most importantly, they work!

What is assertiveness?

Assertiveness is the ability to stand up for yourself and to say what you think and feel in a way that is respectful towards other people’s thoughts and feelings. Assertiveness is not being mean, but it isn’t necessarily being nice either.

Assertiveness helps you to protect yourself in a strong yet respectful way.

Assertiveness is a skill that we learn. It doesn’t come naturally to all of us. The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids provides you with the tools you need to be assertive. There are practical examples as well as guidelines on when to use the tools and when not to.

The book includes a useful chapter on Tools for Bystanders as well as an important chapter on Cyberbullying Tools. There is also a section that discusses assertive behaviour in greater depth.

This book is written for children, parents and teachers in a friendly, useful manner. It is based on many years of experience and observation and it provides tried and tested tools and strategies.

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July 13, 2023 in Media

Baby Yum Yum article – My child is the school bully. What do I do? July 2023

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September 17, 2017 in Media

In-depth interview and write up in Dispatch Live, 17 September 2017

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August 29, 2017 in Media

Podcast of interview with Karen Key on the Health Matters show, Classic fm 102.7 on 29 August 2017

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August 24, 2017 in Media

YOU Magazine article – Put bullies in their place, 24 August 2017

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August 17, 2017 in Media

DRUM Magazine article – Put bullies in their place, 17 August 2017

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July 29, 2017 in Media

Stunning interview with host Simphiwe Ncongwane of Morning Live SABC 2, 29 July 2017

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June 30, 2017 in Media

Podcast of interview with Tamara LePine-Williams on the Classic Lifestyle show, Classic fm 102.7 on 30 June 2017

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May 13, 2017 in Media

Interview with Nikki Bush, 13 May 2017

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May 4, 2017 in Media

Recommendation in the Institute for Child Psychodynamic Child Psychotherapy ‘The Read Thread’ March/April 2017 newsletter

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April 6, 2017 in Media

Interview with Zaheerah Bham-Ismail host of iTrend from ITV Networks Channel 347, 6 April 2017

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April 3, 2017 in Media

Rosebank Killarney Gazette Article – Educational psychologist writes book, The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids, which deals with bullying, 3 April 2017

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March 24, 2017 in Media

SABC News Channel 404 interview with Eben Jansen, 24 March 2017

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March 15, 2017 in Media

Rosebank Killarney Gazette Article – Kingsmead College launches guide for children to resist bullies, 15 March 2017

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February 23, 2017 in Media

Rosebank Killarney Gazette Article – Throwing the book at bullies, 23 February 2017

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January 1, 2017 in Media

Your Baby Article – The Self Sufficient Child, Jan/Feb 2017

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What a great idea! We sorely need therapeutic material aimed specifically at children, especially in South Africa, and this manual is an invaluable resource for young victims of bullying. Moreover, the assertiveness tools presented in this book will be useful for the social development of any child.

Dr Brendan BelshamChild Psychiatrist and author of What's the fuss about ADHD?

Jo Hamilton's book is as useful, quick and accessible as it professes to be. I love the analogy of equipping children with a toolbox to fix tricky situations.

Nikki BushCreative Parenting Expert, speaker and best-selling author of Future-Proof Your Child

I particularly liked the chapter written for bystanders – we are all responsible for standing up and speaking out when we witness wrongdoing and meanness.

Dr Nicola DugmoreEducational Psychologist

Bullying is an international phenomenon of endemic proportions and must be uncompromisingly addressed in every school from the top down. No professional who works with children and adolescents can afford to ignore this Toolbox for practical techniques and sound advice.

Professor Andre VenterDevelopmental Paediatrician & Head of Department, Paediatrics, University of the Free State

Children will appreciate Jo’s open and casual style, a delightful approach that makes a very serious and sometimes hard issue accessible, and even fun to grapple with.

Dr Helen DooleyEducational Psychologist and co-author of The Adolescent Storm and How Children Experience Trauma and How Parents Can Help Them Cope

Her parental tips are most useful, in particular the section on cyberbullying. This is a must read for all parents and educators.

Sister Ann RichardsonSpecialist Nurse PractitionerAuthor of Baby Sense, Sleep Sense and Toddler Sense.

I wish I had had this book when my eldest daughter had problems being assertive at school!

Tina OtteRegistered nurse and midwife, childbirth educator and author of Tina Otte’s Pregnancy and Birth Book

With bullying and aggressive behaviour being an ever present and worsening phenomenon in our children’s lives, this toolbox is a very useful and practical collection of strategies that parents and children will find very helpful, and applicable in daily life.

Dr Linda KellyChild Psychiatrist

The book includes helpful sections on the role of the bystander in a bullying situation, and on cyberbullying. I heartily recommend this resource!

Dr Brendan BelshamChild Psychiatrist and author of What's the fuss about ADHD?

Most compelling about The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids is that this is an accessible manual for children and their parents that will help them to become empowered and learn skills that are needed, not only in times of adversity, but also to set them on a path of being assertive in the best possible way, as a life skill.

Professor Andre VenterDevelopmental Paediatrician & Head of Department, Paediatrics, University of the Free State

I really look forward to recommending this extremely helpful, hands-on toolbox to the children that I see who have almost given up on ever learning to cope with mean people. With the help of this book, these children will feel free again in their world.

Dr Helen DooleyEducational Psychologist and co-author of The Adolescent Storm and How Children Experience Trauma and How Parents Can Help Them Cope

This insightful and comprehensive toolkit can be implemented from the toddler years onwards.

Sister Ann RichardsonSpecialist Nurse PractitionerAuthor of Baby Sense, Sleep Sense and Toddler Sense.